the 5 Love Languages

BLOGS

titlePractically Speaking : Week of April 22: tags#lovelanguages#relationship; dateApril 22, 2019; We could all use a little creativity when it comes to speaking love and appreciation to others. Here are some suggestions that will help get you started: WORDS OF AFFIRMATION: Before you sit down to eat, place a label or sign on each chair describing who is to sit there—“Best husband/wife in the world,” “My favorite person,” “My little princess.” Watch their faces light up and their love tanks fill.

titleI’m Separated. Now What?: tags#marrage#divorce#separation; dateApril 1, 2019; You are separated, but you really don’t want a divorce. You want to follow the Biblical ideal of seeking reconciliation. How do you go about it. First, you must not allow your emotions to control you. I didn’t say that you should not have emotions. Hurt, anger, disappointment, and pain are often the emotions of separation. Or, you may feel relieved, free, happy they are gone. Whatever your emotions, you must not allow them to control your behavior.

titleGod’s Way Of Rebuilding a Marriage: tags#marrage#rebuilding#separation; dateMarch 13, 2019; You may not have positive feelings toward your spouse, but you are choosing to give them unconditional love every week by doing something for them that you know they want you to do. There is a good chance that within six months, you will hear your spouse say “This is great. I can’t believe the way you are treating me. I think I’ve died and gone to heaven. It feels so good.”

titleWhat Can I Do To Make Your Life Better?: tags#marrage#unconditionallove; dateMarch 5, 2019; “I’ll treat her better when she treats me better.” “I’ll treat him better when he treats me better.” Such an attitude misses out on the power of unconditional love. Unconditional love is the choice to love your spouse no matter how they treat you. Let me give you a suggestion: Go to your spouse and say “I’ve been thinking about our marriage, and I realize that I have loved you conditionally. When you are kind to me, I tend to be kind to you. When you help me, I help you.

titleWho Will Take The Lead?: tags#lovelife#commitment#wedding; dateFebruary 25, 2019; All of us would like to think that someone loves us unconditionally. The child longs for this kind of love from his parents, but husbands and wives also desire unconditional love from each other. The wedding vow was to love “in sickness and in health, in poverty and in wealth, so long as we both shall live.” This is a commitment to unconditional love. In a healthy marriage, we will actually experience it. Far too many are waiting for their spouse to make the first move.

titleUsing The 5 Love Languages in Education: tags#marrage#forgiveness; dateFebruary 20, 2019; So, your spouse has failed you. But now, they have confessed their wrong and are seeking to change their behavior. What are you to do? In the Scriptures, forgiveness is always the Christian response to confession and repentance. Remember, forgiveness is not a feeling. It is a decision to lift the penalty and declare the person pardoned.

titleWould You Like to Put the Past Behind You and Start Over?: tags#marrage#divorce#separation; dateFebruary 3, 2019; I’m talking about in your marriage. Many couples have so much pain from past failures that they have a hard time moving ahead. Time alone, will not heal hurts. Healing comes when we are willing to confess our failures and change our behavior. Some of us would like to leave out the confession part and just focus on being different in the future. However, confession is essential to the healing process.

titleDealing Effectively with Failures: tags#failure#marriage; dateJanuary 17, 2019; You don’t have to be perfect to have a good marriage. But, you do need to deal effectively with your failures. Otherwise, they sit as barriers to a growing marriage. How do you get rid of past failures? First, you identify them – write them down. Second, you confess them as wrong – to God and to your spouse. Third, you repent – change your behavior.

titleWould You Like to Put the Past Behind You and Start Over?: tags#failure#marriage#seperate#gaslighting; dateJanuary 17, 2019; You don’t have to be perfect to have a good marriage. But, you do need to deal effectively with your failures. Otherwise, they sit as barriers to a growing marriage. How do you get rid of past failures? First, you identify them – write them down. Second, you confess them as wrong – to God and to your spouse. Third, you repent – change your behavior.

titleDealing Effectively with Failures: tags#failure#marriage#lovelife; dateJanuary 17, 2019; You don’t have to be perfect to have a good marriage. But, you do need to deal effectively with your failures. Otherwise, they sit as barriers to a growing marriage. How do you get rid of past failures? First, you identify them – write them down. Second, you confess them as wrong – to God and to your spouse. Third, you repent – change your behavior.

titleWho Will Take The Lead?: tags#failure#reality; dateJanuary 17, 2019; You don’t have to be perfect to have a good marriage. But, you do need to deal effectively with your failures. Otherwise, they sit as barriers to a growing marriage. How do you get rid of past failures? First, you identify them – write them down. Second, you confess them as wrong – to God and to your spouse. Third, you repent – change your behavior.

titlePractically Speaking : Long Distance Relationship: tags#LDR; dateJanuary 17, 2019; You don’t have to be perfect to have a good marriage. But, you do need to deal effectively with your failures. Otherwise, they sit as barriers to a growing marriage. How do you get rid of past failures? First, you identify them – write them down. Second, you confess them as wrong – to God and to your spouse. Third, you repent – change your behavior.